When a relationship turns into a nightmare

Back in the late 80's my best friend was in an abusive marriage.There was no signs that he was violent. He was loving and caring. She was very devoted to him as he was to her. He had moved her away from everyone and the nearest neighbor was over a mile away.After a year of enduring the abuse, she managed to get away from him,she fled back to her families home, filed a restraining order and filed for divorce. The restraining order didn't stop him from following her. He made sure he was far enough away where he didn't violate the order.She was doing everything she could to move on and start a new life. She was going to school to better herself, she was hearing impaired and taught children to sign. Her life was looking brighter, but everywhere she looks there he was.For two weeks she had escaped him. She made sure when she went anywhere she wasn't alone, until a day she couldn't find someone to go with her.At the last minute a friend of ours had an emergency come up, and couldn't go with her to the interview. She had gone to a job interview, parked her car out of sight she it couldn't be seen from the road, she went in for the interview. After her interview she went to her car, her soon to be ex husband was waiting for her, she didn't see him at first. She sat in her car when he showed up next to the window. He pulled out a gun and shot her two times in the neck and he ran. He turned himself into the local police, confessing what he did and saying he went there to kill himself in front of her.He said he called her to meet him so they could talk. She would never had agreed to meet him alone. He was sentenced to 2nd degree murder and dangerous act with a loaded gun, his sentenced was 40 years, that was September of 1989 he was released January of 2006. Seventeen years that is all he served. He is now living in Texas I heard.

A couple of years before this had happened I was in a relationship with a man that I thought was very nice at first. He started showing signs of being over controlling so I had broken off the relationship. We only dated for about a month or so. We were apart for about two weeks when I started to see my childhood crush. I was madly in love with him from the first moment I met him. It about killed me when I had to sit in at his wedding, now divorced he had come around to see my family. We started dating, I had told him of the guy I just broke up with. A week after we had started to date the ex boyfriend had shown up at my house and forced me into his car. He beat me bloody while driving around. I had tried to jump out of the car but he made the door where it could only be opened from the outside. It seemed like forever before he dumped me off at my new boyfriends apartment. Bloody and beaten, my shirt torn, my hair coming out in clumps I walked into my boyfriends apartment, his brother and roommates went after my attacker. They found him and punished him for what he had done. He was dropped off in front of the police station. Thankfully I haven't seen him in many years.